Just like meeting a stranger in real life, you have to stay safe when you’re online.
“We were working with a couple of online dating companies who were finding that their users got very unhappy very quickly with online dating.
To find out, they showed each of 304 online daters, average age 34, a grab-bag of anywhere from one to 10 traits randomly culled from more than 200 characteristics gathered from real online daters.
“Be careful what you say about yourself,” says Honey.
“Could someone use those details to find you on Linked In, for example?
A lot of the outdated dating rules don’t apply, and sending the first message online is actively encouraged if you want to get your profile looked at. “Set aside an amount of time every day and write a handful of tailored introductory messages to new people,” he says.
“It’s always obvious when someone is cutting and pasting the same general ‘hi’ message.This is the big one, because depressing though it may be, your smiling face is the first thing on which people will judge you.Relationship psychologist Honey Langcaster-James says: “Look straight into the camera and smile showing your teeth – this says open, friendly, healthy and confidence.” A recent study of the most popular profiles on dating sites showed 88 per cent are making eye contact with the camera in their profile picture.It's not that familiarity always breeds contempt, the researchers say.But on average, as you learn more about any lover, the less likely it is that you will click and get along with them, Norton explained.The Rules of Attraction in the Game of Love Love is More Powerful than Sex Men and Women Really Do Think Differently Loss of Loved One Really Can Cause Broken Heart Altruistic Love Related to Happier Marriages Why Some Old Lovers Look Alike Fantasies vanishing with knowledge is a process that hits women harder than men, said Michael Norton of Harvard Business School and one of the study's authors.“On online dates, women are much, much more disappointed than men," Norton said.